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We at the Dennis Union Church hope these guidelines will be helpful to you as you plan your wedding.  It is offered as a guide in your preparations so that your wedding day may be a wonderful and memorable event and that God’s richest blessing may attend your marriage.

The Dennis Union Church stands within a long Christian tradition which affirms the importance of the relationship of marriage, believing that marriage is, in the words of the United Church of Christ’s Order for Marriage, a “sacred and joyous covenant”.  It has both public and private aspects.  A Covenant is made between two people who are also in covenant with God.  The covenant relationship is entered into through the exchange of vows.  The guests who make up the worshipping congregation witness to this covenant.  They also dedicate themselves to supporting and encouraging the couple as they seek  to fulfill the promises made before God and to each other.  Every wedding service additionally includes the elements of thanksgiving and dedication.  The marriage partners and their families and friends give thanks to the Lord for bringing the couple together in love.  And the couple dedicates their new relationship to God, seeking the guidelines and empowerment of the Holy Spirit and growth in the Christian faith.

In accordance with our Statement of Welcome, our Sanctuary is open for weddings to all persons, regardless of race, gender, age, ethnicity, sexual orientation, ability, or economic circumstance.

Recognizing a sense of responsibility to the couple being married, and to the Christian understanding of the marriage covenant, the church’s Board of Deacons supports the following principles:

 

RESERVING THE SANCTUARY

Requests for weddings should reach the Pastor at least 60 days in advance of the proposed wedding date to ensure couples will obtain the date desired.  Your reservation will be confirmed upon receipt of your deposit (which is non-refundable).

THE WEDDING CEREMONY

Your wedding is a service of worship rooted in historic and traditional Christian rituals.  The ordained minister who will preside at your wedding will make available to you an outline of the wedding service as usually conducted, but will also encourage you to participate in creating a service that honors the past, is faithful to its Christian traditions, and expresses your own love, lives, and relationship. Other clergy may share in the ceremony, at the request of the couple, by permission of the minister.

CLERGY, COUNSELING AND PLANNING

The wedding service will be presided over by an ordained minister who may or may not be the pastor of Dennis Union Church. Once a date for the wedding is confirmed, you will be put in contact with the minister who will perform the service. You will meet prior to the wedding with the minister, as needed and as mutually agreed, to plan the wedding and to converse about the upcoming marriage.

By special arrangement, permission may be extended to an ordained clergy person to co-officiate at the service.

LICENSE  

A marriage license must be obtained from a city or town clerk’s office.  In order to obtain a marriage license the couple must file a marriage intention (both must appear in person) at a clerk’s office no earlier than 60 days before the wedding date.  Once the intention is filed there is a 3-day waiting period before the license can be picked up.  Both must have a blood test done which may not be more than 30 days old when turned into the clerk’s office.  Fees vary from town to town.  Couples planning to be married should inquire about the status of current regulations in obtaining a marriage license from the clerk’s office.  The license must be presented to the officiating minister before the service -- usually at the rehearsal.

MUSIC

Music enriches the wedding ceremony.  It is assumed the church organist/pianist will play at all weddings when organ or piano music is requested, unless other arrangements are approved by the minister and the Organist. Additional musicians may be contracted only with the prior approval of the Organist, who shall in all events have the final responsibility for the music at the wedding.  Music for additional musicians is to be provided by the couple in consultation with the organist and must be received two months prior to the wedding date.  Exception to this would be by agreement with the organist to   procure additional musicians for the wedding, and thereby notifying the wedding couple of the cost involved and to whom they should remit the payment  for such services.   Special requests for organ music must be submitted to the organist at least three months in advance of the wedding date. Otherwise, music  will be provided from the organist’s standard wedding repertoire. Requests  beyond the standard repertoire may result in additional cost.   A request to utilize the services of another organist or other musician for a wedding service in place of the organist of Dennis Union Church must be approved by the residing organist.  If approval is given for a substitute organist, the residing church organist will still receive her fee due to contractual arrangements made with the church which state that the organist will receive a salary and fees from weddings and funerals. This fee should be paid once the  arrangements are agreed upon for a substitute organist.     

Music chosen for the wedding should be appropriate for a worship service — popular secular music should be reserved for the reception.

REHEARSALS  

A wedding rehearsal is highly recommended.  Rehearsals usually are held on an evening during the week preceding the wedding day.  All participating in the wedding should be in attendance to eliminate unnecessary confusion and uncertainty during the actual wedding service.

PHOTOGRAPHERS, VIDEOGRAPHERS

To maintain the integrity of a religious ceremony (which is, after all, why you are getting married in a church), Dennis Union Church provides these guidelines for your photographers and videographers:

-  A designated wedding photographer may photograph throughout the marriage ceremony, as long as he/she is unobtrusive. The wedding service may be video and/or audio-taped as long as these procedures do not interfere with the worship service.  Please consult with the minister in advance.

-  Additional photographs may be staged after the ceremony.

-  Guests with cameras should be asked by the ushers to refrain from taking pictures during the service.

FLORISTS AND FLOWERS

The church office has the name of people who can do professional flower displays, if you cannot find a florist.

If bows or flowers are used to decorate the pews, they must be attached with ribbon or string, or as arranged with the Sexton.  Wire and tape mar the finish.

Some couples incorporate a Unity Candle into their service. It symbolizes the joining of two families.  It should be supplied by the florist or the bride and groom.

USING DENNIS UNION CHURCH

The church will typically provide an order of worship (bulletin) for the guests. In the event you would like something different, that will be your responsibility.

Your guest book should be in place 40 minutes before the service so people can sign as they come in.  The desk in the entryway is a good place to put it.

No rice, confetti or birdseed may be used in Dennis Union Church or on the Church grounds. No alcoholic beverages may be served anywhere on the Church property or grounds.

A MESSAGE OF GOODWILL

We hope to make your entrance into married life together a memorable, joyful, and spiritually significant occasion. This can be a stress-filled time for you — it is our hope to make your wedding something to be enjoyed, rather than simply endured.  We stand ready to listen and respond to your questions and concerns.

                                                           May God bless you as you plan your wedding and life together!

 

 

 

 

 

FEES (For Non-Members of Dennis Union Church)

Use of Sanctuary        $300              (Due on booking; please make out check to Dennis Union Church; this fee is nonrefundable in event of cancellation because once booked it forecloses the use of the Sanctuary by others.)

Pastor              $300    (Please make check out to the minister doing the service)

Includes:  up to two counseling/planning sessions, crafting the wedding ceremony, conducting the wedding rehearsal, performing the wedding.

Organist           $200    (Please make out check to Maggie Bossi)

Fee includes a one-hour consultation, the rehearsal and the wedding; additional rehearsals will be billed at $25/hour.

For additional musicians, such as soloists and/or participating instrumentalists, there will be an additional fee of $25 per hour to cover preparation and rehearsal time.

One half of the base fee for the organist is required at the time of the meeting and/or phone conversation for the initial consult.  This amount is not refundable if the party cancels after the consultation. The balance total, including additional fees incurred for reasons as stated above, is due at the rehearsal. If no rehearsal is held, then the balance should be mailed to the organist to be received prior to the wedding day.                                                                             

Sexton $100      (Please make check out to Sexton doing the service)

Wedding Coordinator $100 (Please make check out to coordinator doing the service)

Use of Fellowship Hall for a reception (including kitchen):   $300, plus $20 per hour for custodial service. (Please make check out to Dennis Union Church)

DVD/Webcast  $125  (Please make check out to Dennis Union Church with AV in memo)

The fee for use of Dennis Union Church is due upon booking; all other fees are due at the rehearsal.

Please make out separate checks for the minister, Organist, Sexton, Coordinator and Dennis Union Church.

 

FEES   (For Members of Dennis Union Church)

 

Use of the Sanctuary  $0

Pastor $ 200      (Please make check out to the minister doing the service)

Includes:  up to two counseling/planning sessions, crafting the wedding ceremony, conducting the wedding rehearsal, performing the wedding.

Organist $200    (Please make out check to Maggie Bossi)

Fee includes a one-hour consultation, the rehearsal and the wedding; additional rehearsals will be billed at $25/hour.

For additional musicians, such as soloists and/or participating instrumentalists, there will be an additional fee of $25 per hour to cover preparation and rehearsal time.

One half of the base fee for the organist is required at the time of the meeting and/or phone conversation for the initial consult.  This amount is not refundable if the party cancels after the consultation. The balance total, including additional fees incurred for reasons as stated above, is due at the rehearsal. If no rehearsal is held, then the balance should be mailed to the organist to be received prior to the wedding.

Sexton        $100      (Please make check out to Sexton doing the service)

Wedding Coordinator $100 (Please make check out to coordinator doing the service)

Use of Fellowship Hall for a reception (including kitchen):  $0

DVD/Webcast  $125  (Please make check out to Dennis Union Church with AV in memo)

The fee for use of the DUC is due upon booking; all other fees (except as specified for the organist) are due at the rehearsal.

Please make out separate checks for the minister, Organist, Sexton, Coordinator and Dennis Union Church.

 

Please download wedding information sheet here, and return to Church Office once wedding date is reserved. Fill in what you can.